Stereotypical households within the Black community depict silence amongst issues that happen within the household. Georgia native Melinda Harris, an advocate for spreading awareness of domestic violence, is now dubbed an author after co-authoring a book titled, ‘I Survived It.”
According to Harris, “I Survived It” is a collaboration of stories from women survivors of abusive relationships. She said she was presented with the idea of writing the book through a fellow author and friend. They now share the same publisher.
“I Survived It” can be purchased through Melinda Harris via her website, Melinda.ISurvivedItBook.com. She also has plans to produce another book soon on the signs of a narcissist and her story on unhealthy relationships.
When she set out to write “I Survived It,” Harris said she was not aware of the other co-authors within the book and was so inspired to hear the stories of other survivors. According to Harris, “It is important for women to know their worth.”
She discusses the importance of caring for one’s self.
“When you don’t get the help and healing that you really need it becomes a cycle,” Harris said. “You don’t want to keep creating those soul ties, you don’t want to keep creating those cycles of unhealthy relationships with toxic people. You want to get the help you need.”
The book explores love, trust, and the silent stories of several women who have been in abusive relationships and how they controlled it. It targets those who are currently going through a similar situation. The book also reveals signs of an abusive relationship and spreads awareness of domestic violence within the Black community.
“There is always something out there to give you insight on domestic violence,” said Harris, as she elaborated on the signs she recognized within her family and how it correlated with her own abusive relationship. “My household introduced me to domestic violence. As a child growing up and not being able to talk about it, I felt embarrassed.
“You’re embarrassed. It is almost like I wore a mask,” she added. “Just like my mom wore a mask. You know, kids mimic what their parents do.”
Although the book focuses a lot of women experiencing domestic violence, Harris also discussed the importance of recognizing that men experience domestic violence and abusive relationships too.
“I know it is easy to go from 0 to 100 really quick. Get out of it. If you have kids involved, try to get counseling or help,” Harris said as advice to men who are experiencing domestic violence.
Harris also emphasized the importance of having friends who are unwilling to seek help.
“Go out and do your research on the situation. There are so many resources out there that will help,” she said. “They may be in denial. A lot of them are.”
Harris said she plans to organize a conference and gala to increase awareness of domestic violence. She said she is also in the process of receiving certifications to become a life coach for survivors of domestic violence.