Are Black Women Giving up on Black Men?
By Jineea Butler NNPA Columnist | 1/31/2014, 10:45 a.m.
A UC Berkeley Sociologist Gerald Mendelson said blacks are interested in moving up the power structure and one way you do is through intermarriage with a dominant group. Look at Janet Jackson’s marriage to billionaire Wissam Al Mana following a relationship with So-So Def’s Jermaine Dupri. It is almost like black women are beginning to reject the unnecessary madness we seem to get when we relentlessly dedicate ourselves to that life. The whole world would like to see the black man overcome his obstacles and be all that he is destined to be. But it’s nothing compared to the heart of the black woman who knows the soul of a black man. Who knows that the black man is more powerful than any creature on this earth, that he possesses the ability to be king over everything and then some. His own fear of success hinders his movements and his decisions, his insecurities overpower his will to venture into the unknown while his friends in misery love his company.
And where does that leave the black woman? Desolate, out of place, unprotected and searching for her missing piece. For years, we have carried the weight; prison sentences, infidelity, verbal and physical abuse, thinking one day that he will see that we have sacrificed, see that we understand and have held the torch without fail. But no. The pain is too deep for him to bear, he is not comfortable being naked in his vulnerability, he wants to be the man, he wants what they took from him. It occupies his every move and we become objects in his quest to find what he doesn’t know he is looking for. Alas, the perfect opportunity to send us back into a slavery mindset. Killing ourselves because no one taught us how to care about ourselves. SMH, I expect more out of you black man, more accountability, more responsibility, more effort, more love. Thank you in advance.
Jineea Butler, founder of the Social Services of Hip Hop and the Hip Hop Union is a Hip Hop Analyst who investigates the trends and behaviors of the community and delivers programming that solves the Hip Hop Dilemma. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or Tweet her at @flygirlladyjay